Whether
it’s your wife of five years or a chick you just met at a bar, s*x is
an incredibly intimate experience—especially for the woman.
So when you’re in the bedroom (or elsewhere), it’s important to avoid
unnecessary commentary that could ruin the mood, or worse— make her not
want to sleep with you again. From discussing your s*xual repertoire to
assessing her climax, here are five subjects to stay away from during
s*x.
1. “Not like that.”
Remember in school when you were taught to give “constructive
criticism?” This does not apply to your lady in the bedroom. It’s not
very sexy or encouraging to tell a woman her skills are subpar in the
heat of the moment. You should always frame it in the positive by
talking about what you do like. How we say things to each other can make
a huge difference in performance and s*xual confidence.
Also avoid: “What are you doing?”
2. “My ex used to love it when I…”
All women are different, so don’t lean heavily on past
experiences—and definitely don’t discuss it. Besides, who’s to say that
the previous women didn’t fake their pleasure just to get you to finish
quicker? Talking about your prior s*xual encounters can drive a woman
completely crazy—and not in a good way. She doesn’t need to hear about
it, and if you bring it up, she’ll feel threatened and jealous. For a
lot of women, that’s a dealbreaker.”
Also avoid: “Let’s try this position that I did one time with…”
3. “I have to be out of here by 4:00.”
Making allusions to the idea that you don’t have much time to work
with is a major mood-killer. If you absolutely must talk about somewhere
that you need to be, or the fact that you’re in a rush, at least wait
until afterward!
Also avoid: “I need to wake up super early tomorrow.”
4. “I wish you had more a*s to grab!”
Here’s a newsflash: Women are often extremely insecure, especially
when they’re unclad and most vulnerable. Pointing out things about other
women’s bodies that you like, particularly ones that highlight what
your partner doesn’t have, is a major no. Anything that’s going to make a
woman self-conscious is a female-libido kill. She’ll shut down
immediately.”
Also avoid: “What’s that weird red bump on your back?”
5. “Did you come yet?”
Contrary to popular belief, “an climax does not define good or bad
s*x. So please stop asking if she came or saying that you want to see
her come. That puts way too much pressure on her.If she did climax, she
can choose to say something or not, but it’s important to remember that
for a woman, having an climax does not equal having a good time in bed.
It can be lovely…but it should not be the goal.
Also avoid: “Are you going to come soon?”