23 Nov 2013
Chain-smoking Toddler Gives Up Cigarettes
A toddler who shocked the world with his chain smoking has kicked the habit - but he’s piled on the weight ever since. Aldi Rizal, now aged five, was first discovered three years ago in a poor village in Sumatra, Indonesia, puffing on a cigarette while riding his tricycle.
16 Silly Bad Habits That Can Hurt Your Relationship
Are you subconsciously doing things that could hurt your relationship? See these 16 bad habits to know if you’re hurting your lover without realizing it. By Natalia Avdeeva
All of us have a few bad habits that we don’t realize.
Sometimes, these habits could be silly or cute.
But at most other times, these subconscious bad habits could end up hurting you or distancing you from the one you love.
When you fall in love with someone, you can’t see their bad habits, at least not until you’re past the stage of infatuation.
And likewise, your partner won’t see the bad in you because they’re so smitten by you and your love for them.
But once the rose tinted veil of infatuation sweeps past your eyes, it’s only then that the nagging habits start to reveal themselves.
Bad habits that turn into relationship breakers
You can’t change who you are, can you?
And if you have a few bad habits that could play the part of a deal breaker in your romance, you may realize it only when it’s too late.
After all, it’s easier to deny that you have faults than to accept that you may be flawed, or that your behavior has a significant role to play in the drift between you and your lover.
Now not all bad habits could affect your relationship for the worse. But there are a few which your partner could overlook for a while, until those habits sow the seed that could split the ground in your perfect relationship and give way to other critical differences. [Read: 18 critical signs of an unhealthy relationship]
16 silly bad habits that can hurt your relationship
Are you indulging in any of these 16 bad habits in your own relationship? These habits may seem trivial to many, but it’s these very habits that could go from a minor annoyance to a big reason for a break up soon enough if you don’t keep an eye on them.
#1 Taken for granted. You know your partner’s sweet and caring. And you love them for it. But do you remember to appreciate your partner and thank them for all the little things they do, be it finding your keys or opening the doors for you?
You may think it’s silly to constantly thank your partner for every little thing they do. But chances are, you may start taking these sweet gestures for granted even before you realize it, and they’d turn into expectations instead! [Read: 16 reasons why you’re so easily taken for granted by everyone around you]
#2 Lover pleaser. You try really hard to please your partner, but you get really upset when your partner doesn’t realize you’ve done something for them. And yet, you continue to do nice things for them all the time *which they take for granted* and eventually turn into a relationship martyr.
If your partner takes you for granted, talk to them about it. Bottling your rage or sadness will not help you. Perhaps, your partner didn’t even realize that you’ve done something sweet for them. Communicate and express yourself now and then, and stop trying to be a helpless people pleaser. [Read: 20 signs you’re a people pleaser and don’t even know it]
#3 Testing your partner. You intentionally make big demands or throw tantrums just to see if your partner cares enough to go the extra mile for you. These petty tests are rather common at the start of a new relationship when you’d want your lover to prove their love for you, but don’t carry this habit into the later stages of love or your constant games and tests would annoy your lover. [Read: The 9 relationship stages all couples go through]
#4 Blame games. Don’t put the fault entirely on your partner if you believe you have a small role to play too. It’s easy to point a finger and accuse your partner for the mess that both of you are in. But by doing that, your partner would feel cornered and helpless, and even angry and hurt.
On the other hand, by sharing the blame or acknowledging your role in the mistake, you’d be giving your partner the emotional support they so badly need at that moment.
#5 Silent treatment. Do you choose to ignore your partner instead of talking about something that’s hurt you? You’re not alone. Many men and women would rather sit down in the corner and stare at the ceiling than answer their partner when they’re annoyed for some reason. Never do that because you’d only end up hurting your partner, make them feel miserable, and hate you at the same time. [Read: How to perfect the art of the silent treatment for the better]
#6 Unbalanced expectations. Do you have high expectations from your partner, and expect them to have lower expectations from you *because you’re too busy providing for the family or busy doing something else?*
The roles between a husband and a wife or a boyfriend and a girlfriend could be different, but that gives no right for one partner to demand more from the other partner, and give less in return.
#7 Monosyllables. Don’t answer in monosyllables in the middle of a conversation. Period. Answering with a ‘yes’, ‘no’ or an ‘hmmm’ is just a rude thing to do, even if you’re pretending to be concentrating on something else.
When your partner tries to communicate with you, try to answer back in open ended questions. It’ll help both of you interact better and understand each other better. You need to remember that conversations with monosyllables usually end up dead in a minute or two, and over a period of time, your monosyllabic answers would just push both of you apart. [Read: 12 real reasons why so many couples drift apart over a few years]
#8 Don’t be a brat. Do you constantly like having things your way? It could be as silly as watching a genre of movies you enjoy or dining out at places that you like. Your partner may find your tantrums cute to begin with, but if you always want things your own way, there will come a time very soon when your partner would snap and just hate everything you like because they’re so sick of it!
#9 Making a scene in public. Don’t yell at your partner or humiliate them in public or when someone else is around. Your frustrations may be valid and you may have every good reason to accuse your partner of something, or walk away from them. But ridiculing your partner or hurting them in public will do a lot of damage to their ego, and that’s something that won’t heal very soon.
#10 You lie. For the silliest of reasons! And you just can’t help yourself. You may be lying to your partner because you’re afraid of their temper, or because you don’t want to appear weak in front of them. The reasons could be several, but the end result is almost always the same. Lies affect relationships negatively, and will lead to loss of trust. Stop lying and learn to confront the truth, you’ll have a much better life. [Read:7 reasons why you lie and 7 ways to stop lying and hurting everyone else]
#11 “I don’t want to talk about it!” Avoiding discussions, especially if it’s stressful may seem like the easy thing to do at a particular moment. But stuffing all the difficult conversations in some dark corner will only leave you more stressed, and leave your partner frustrated and angry. As difficult as a particular decision or a relationship conversation may be, you can solve it only by talking about it with your lover. Remember, every journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.
#12 You get irritated easily. Do you find yourself getting irritated with your partner now and then, and have no idea why you feel that way? In all probability, there’s a subtle reason behind why you’re annoyed with your partner. So instead of snapping at them or behaving in an irritable manner, sit down and ask yourself why you’re feeling annoyed. Or better yet, tell your partner that you feel annoyed, but can’t figure out why you’re feeling that way. Believe me, you’ll feel a lot better almost the very second you say that to your lover!
#13 Every moment is together time. Do you spend every waking moment *other than work* with each other? You could scoff at other couples who do things individually and believe you’re the better couple because both of you do everything together. But in reality, doing every single thing together can do more harm than good because it stops both of you from having your own individual lives. [Read: Why space is so important for the success of a relationship]
#14 You don’t compliment enough. When was the last time you complimented your partner when they dressed up for you? As the years go by, it’s easy to overlook the little things that your lover does that makes them awesome and take it for granted. Compliment your partner often and let them see that you still admire them, and are awed and smitten by them.
#15 Time for friends. Do you subconsciously nag your partner or get annoyed with them when they leave you alone and go out with their own friends? This is pretty common, and there’s a good chance you feel it if your partner has more friends than you do or if you’re a loner. But remember, hanging out with friends now and then isn’t all bad. It gives both of you the kind of space you both need to grow as individuals. [Read: 10 things to keep in mind to avoid smothering your lover with your love]
#16 You don’t discuss the future. Firstly, do both of you have common goals for the future? Most couples don’t talk about the future at all, and when it comes to making a decision, you may feel like you got the short end of the stick.
Don’t avoid discussing about the future just because both of you have contrasting opinions. It’ll only push both of you further away. Communicate with each other and try reasoning the differences out. As hard as it may seem, it’s always better than avoiding confrontations in love.
Sometimes, it’s easy to assume these are trivial details that aren’t a big deal. But if you continue with these 16 bad relationship habits for more than a few months, it’s only a matter of time before your partner would end up getting frustrated with your behavior.
What Breakup? Beyonce & Jay-z all loved up after reports he partied with beauty queen
Despite this the couple look more inlove as they watched an NBA basketball game together. .I think Jay & Bey are going to be together for a really long time
Tonto Dikeh flaunts her diamond iPhone & 18k Gold Rolex(Photos)
Looks like customized Iphones are in vogue now.Last month she flaunted her gold plated iphone, now it's an upgraded iPhone5s, Diamond limited edition..
Also shared a photo of her Rolex."Got my new 18k yellow Gold Rolex with customised Bezel diamond big"face"
You know what they say, diamond's are a girl's best friend.If those are real diamonds then that would cost a fortune...unless she has been paid to showcase them..
More below
The pampering continues....Jim Iyke takes Nadia on a pink Limo ride
Don't be surprised to see Nadia with a ring...
See What Jim Iyke Is Doing To His "skittles" Nadia Buari
Jim is really taking care of Nadia for her birthday. They are in Spain and the pampering continues. #love
The Mess Going On In Night Clubs In Lagos
"At night clubs, one can socialise and get useful business connections. On the negative, they can promote extreme indulgence in alcoholism and sexual escapades. There is a tendency for one to consume more alcoholic drinks than required. Commercial sex workers also loiter around such places. Someone who lacks self control may be tempted to want to have a feel of anyone of them."Punch's GBENGA ADENIJI reports that this love for spectacle is noticeable in the merriment which club houses in the state dish out from time to time. The state government once said residents of the state spend over N1bn on parties and entertainment every month.
Every week, there is usually a place for fun seekers to hang out in various parts of the metropolis. In fact, there are now night clubs in some residential areas. It is not unusual these days to see fun spots springing up where residential buildings were once erected. From Ikeja, Surulere, Oshodi, Akowonjo, Iyana Ipaja, Abule Egba, Ogba to Ikorodu and other areas in the state, Friday is usually a special day.
On this day, music blares from every nook and cranny till dawn. The fun, which starts midweek in some parts, reaches a crescendo on Friday. Some singers, especially those in the hip hop and juju genres, have even made special releases on the importance of Friday in the start of a weekend of merry-making.
As it rocks in Lagos, the same happens in Port Harcourt, Abuja and other notable cities in the country. Drinks of all types usually accompany the entertainment. A recent data has shown Nigeria as one of the leading countries with high champagne consumption.
A dispatch rider, Henry Smith, who was sighted at a night club in Iyana Ipaja area of Lagos State, said siting relaxation centres within residential areas have some merits and demerits.
He said apart from noise pollution and security threat which they could pose to such areas, they provide on-the-move relaxation to residents. Smith further said the level of noise from worship centres could sometimes be more than what emanates from night clubs.
He said, "These club houses pay all manner of taxes to local governments in their domains. They employ security men to ensure orderliness. Some people even feel safe when they get to a place and see a night club there. The people trooping into the club and the noise coming out from there often light up the environment. Nigeria is a place where people work hard to survive. You can imagine what the situation will be if there are no places to unwind."
He added that fun spots could attract people of questionable characters into a neighbourhood thereby endangering the safety of occupants.
A worker with an international courier company, Rotimi Oyeneyin, described night clubs as venues for extreme fun seekers to unwind.
He said even though there was nothing bad in hanging out in a club after a hard day’s job, it could be extreme when one stayed throughout the night. Oyeneyin added that night clubs could encourage alcoholism and sexual recklessness.
He also said besides the huge noise pollution from night clubs, there had been cases of auto crashes arising from drunkenness of people coming from such places.
Oyeneyin said, "But one cannot rule out the fact that night clubs are best places to relax after working so hard. Apart from relaxing, one can meet individuals who can lead one to meaningful business deals."
A banker, who lives on Jonathan Coker in New Oko-Oba, Lagos, Princewill George, expressed displeasure over the building of night clubs within residential areas. According to him, such club houses only harbour criminals whose activities make residents uncomfortable.
George said, "I know what I experience every night with the noise pollution from night clubs in my area. On weekends, males and females besiege the clubs to enjoy. Cars are often parked haphazardly on the road, with music playing at a deafening level."
Also, a resident in Oke-Ira, Ogba, whose house is near a night club, Mr. Alphonsus Edward, said he hardly sleeps every Friday. He stated that he struggles to cope with a noise from the speakers of the club and that of a record seller few metres away from his house.
Edward said, "I know that listening to music is one of the ways customers in the club enjoy themselves. But I do not think it is necessary for the music to filter to those who are outside the club. I wonder how those inside the club enjoy the noise because it even disturbs those outside."
If you frequent night clubs, make sure you watch you back, as there are some guys who are out to "loot"?
Ladies, Is This "Thing" Real or Fake?
Dear ladies... is it possible for a lady with this slim body to carry this heavy "bottom power"?
PHOTOS: Actress Rukky Sanda Exposes Her Boobs
I hope she realises that she's on the wrong part. After all, she doesn't have Cossy's size!
PHOTOS: Kim Kardashian Exposes Her Big Boobs
Kim Kardashian showed up with this mind-blowing net top at an event in New York City on Monday. #wtf
CONFUSION PDP Makes U-Turn On Anambra Election
Following heavy criticisms from well-meaning Nigerians over its unpopular position on the fraudulent election in Anambra State, the Peoples Democratic Party, PDP, has made a U-turn on its earlier position on the sham and inconclusive poll which took place on November 16 in Anambra State.
The PDP, through its Publicity Secretary, Olisa Metur, had described the controversial election as free, fair and very credible, and even praised President Gooodluck Jonathan for the success of an on-going election.
But, after Tony Nwoye blasted PDP leadership in Abuja, the party is now singing a new song...
In a chat with Punch in Abuja, PDP National Publicity Secretary, Olisa Metuh, denied point blank that he ever said the Anambra election was free and fair, but there is video evidence that he indeed said so openly.
Olisa Metuh is now claiming that the party’s position which he expressed on Sunday was just to commend the President for providing an enabling environment for the peaceful conduct of the election.
Olisa Metuh's denial came after the popular masses group in the South East, Movement for the Actualisation of the Sovereign State of Biafra, MASSOB, declared that it would hold a 2-day meeting at its headquarters in Okigwe, Imo State, where it will deliberate on the outcome of the fraudulent Anambra election.
Sources in Abuja say PDP is afraid of loosing the support of MASSOB in 2015, hence the shameless denial.
The PDP, through its Publicity Secretary, Olisa Metur, had described the controversial election as free, fair and very credible, and even praised President Gooodluck Jonathan for the success of an on-going election.
But, after Tony Nwoye blasted PDP leadership in Abuja, the party is now singing a new song...
In a chat with Punch in Abuja, PDP National Publicity Secretary, Olisa Metuh, denied point blank that he ever said the Anambra election was free and fair, but there is video evidence that he indeed said so openly.
Olisa Metuh is now claiming that the party’s position which he expressed on Sunday was just to commend the President for providing an enabling environment for the peaceful conduct of the election.
Olisa Metuh's denial came after the popular masses group in the South East, Movement for the Actualisation of the Sovereign State of Biafra, MASSOB, declared that it would hold a 2-day meeting at its headquarters in Okigwe, Imo State, where it will deliberate on the outcome of the fraudulent Anambra election.
Sources in Abuja say PDP is afraid of loosing the support of MASSOB in 2015, hence the shameless denial.
Olisa Metuh is now claiming that the party’s position which he expressed on Sunday was just to commend the President for providing an enabling environment for the peaceful conduct of the election.
Olisa Metuh's denial came after the popular masses group in the South East, Movement for the Actualisation of the Sovereign State of Biafra, MASSOB, declared that it would hold a 2-day meeting at its headquarters in Okigwe, Imo State, where it will deliberate on the outcome of the fraudulent Anambra election.
Sources in Abuja say PDP is afraid of loosing the support of MASSOB in 2015, hence the shameless denial.
100m Nigerian Destitute Facts: A Jet & Bulletproof Bloated Govt In Total Disconnect
Nigeria’s president just “debunked” this via his Chief Economic adviser, Dr Nwanze Okidigbe. Please let’s review.
Firstly, it is important to appreciate that the World Bank did not reveal any new figures. This has been the recognized poverty level in Nigeria since 2010 at least...
National Bureau of statistics (NBS), BBC, 13 February 2012: Poverty has risen in Nigeria, with almost 100 million people living on less than a $1 (£0.63) a day, despite economic growth, statistics have shown. 60.9% of Nigerians in 2010 were living in "absolute poverty" - this figure had risen from 54.7% in 2004.
February NBS report for 2011, Vanguard: 112 million Nigerians are poor going by the economic situation in the country in 2011. While 100 million are in absolute poverty, 12.6 million are moderately poor.
As can be seen, Marie-Nelly’s statement on our destitution level is not revealing anything new; this year, National Bureau of Statistics again stated that about 112million Nigerians lived below the poverty line. And “that the population of Nigerians in poverty has increased considerably (In 2011). The figure represents about 67 per cent of the entire population.”
To confirm this, we implore the President and his Chief Economic adviser to go ask Dr. Yemi Kale, Nigeria’s Statistician general who heads the National Statistics Bureau which collects these data from over 20 million Nigerian households, over the years. It is beneficial to highlight at this point, that these figures are not evenly distributed, the landlocked north has higher rates, Sokoto with a highest of 86% destitute, while Southern States have some of the better rates which reduce the national average, with states like Anambra—the lowest—with 22% destitute.
What our government representative ignorantly jumbled up, and accused the World Bank of contradiction in, was the National poverty rate. This “rate” is very different from the well established nation’s figures for people living below the global poverty line (of $1.25/day).
Quoting World Bank, “National poverty rate is the percentage of the population living below the national poverty line.” The poverty threshold, or national poverty line, is the minimum level of income deemed adequate in a given country. It is an insular figure which is set and varies by countries.
It was this comparative figure within Nigeria that did drop 2 points between 2004 and 2010. Once we understand that for this figure to drop, it can simply mean that Nigeria reduced the “deemed adequate” value or that overall Nigeria developed more poverty within the period, but what happened was a “curve” shift arising from more of the middle class moving to frank poverty. Such a shift will drop the national poverty rate while increasing the global poverty rank. The documented widening gap between the rich and poor substantiates such explanation. In any case, the national rate has nothing to do with the global poverty line.
It is frankly distressing to think that our Chief Economic Adviser to the President, Dr Nwanze Okidigbe and by representation, our President does not even know where we stand in the world poverty map, and discombobulated our national rates with this well recognized and tracked 60-70% poverty prevalence. So what figures have this government been using to address poverty in Nigeria? The 46%? If this is what our Chief Economic Adviser understands and utilizes, then it is clear why we are in such economic shambles! It appears this government exists in a self-blown up bubble.
Sadder yet, was the presentation Nigeria used to “counter” the figures referenced by the World Bank. Referring to loaves of bread and GSM phones serves only one purpose. Clearly, Nigerian leadership was not talking to the World Bank. They know that to talk to the World Bank, you quote standard statistical data. This presentation was a political statement to the Nigerian masses to convince or confuse us by elementary methods that the World Bank is “working for the opposition parties.”
On GSM lines, Dr Nwanze Okidigbe seemed to suggest that 112 million lines translated to 112 million people who can afford that comparatively expensive (when the Nigerian GSM extortive, oligopolistic service is compared to the world) technology. The reality we all know is that our inflated price mobile network service is so poor that most of us have 2 or 3 lines. This brings down the relevance of this 112m figure to less than 50m that own the total lines.
Secondly, owning a line costs a mere N200 and servicing it per month costs N100, N1200/year which is basically all many, especially those in the rural areas where poverty is most prevalent (with 80% living below the poverty line) do so as to manage limited use in receiving calls alone and sending occasional texts. N1200/year equals less than $7/year.
The forgotten rural population of Nigeria who suffer at the hands of government instituted taxes, subsidy-removal, planned road use taxes and other siphons are the worst hit, cheated and robbed from, by Nigeria’s successive rapacious administrations. This disenfranchised population which accounts for roughly half of the nation’s total (81 million), do not have a single benefit from our governments and are the most pitiful victims of the government and even of us proletariat and petty bourgeoisie, who do not fight to protect their right to welfare and prosperity.
And on the presidencies’ reference to loaves of bread; that’s just a big laugh. In the US, 50 million are destitute. Does this mean 50 million do not eat bread? Our deluded stupendously wealthy government is in such disconnect from the masses, it’s mortally gelastic.
Did he mention SURE-P? Funds that are milked from the poor to feed the cabal and that are largely missing, embezzled or poorly accounted for?
These days, Nigeria seems to always be highlighted in the news and for the same set of painful reasons. Last January, David Cameron mentioned Nigeria as the elucidative example, during his World economic forum speech, to highlight the problems of transparency and corruption in the world.
In the speech, Cameron said, “Last year Nigeria oil exports were worth almost a hundred billion dollars. That is more than the total net aid to the whole of sub Saharan Africa. So put simply: unleashing the natural resources in these countries dwarfs anything aid can achieve, and transparency is absolutely critical to that end. So we’re going to push for more transparency on who owns companies; on who’s buying up land and for what purpose; on how governments spend their money; on how gas, oil and mining companies operate; and on who is hiding stolen assets and how we recover and return them.”
The British Prime Minister followed up by referring to the topic today. He said, “Thirty years ago more than half of our planet lived on the equivalent of one dollar twenty five a day or less; today it’s not one half, it is one fifth.”
It is disheartening to realize that when the world is improving the living conditions of its people. When a predominance of more than half living below $1.25 has been cut around the world to one fifth, Nigeria is not one of the nations that celebrate human progress. We own almost 10% of the world’s poor. 70% of this nation lives below the poverty line, whereas the nation brags of having some of the world’s wealthiest men. Billionaires in dollars who made wealth off of the nations massive natural blessings by impoverishing the masses of the nation via government managed oligopolies and partnership with our governments, civilian and democratic to loot the wealth and resource of the people.
This is the law of compensation. It is unfortunate, but not surprising that the President and his team are oblivious to this reality. You cannot plunder the wealth and future of a people, and all drive armored cars and command private jets, and the people remain affluent. When you take, someone must give. When the government continues all types of elaborate schemes and scams, siphoning the oil wealth of the nation, enforcing exploitative monopolies for its private partner cabal friends on life’s essentials, imposing higher tariffs, levies and sanctions on the masses to squeeze out every last kobo into the paws of the cabal, the result is poverty.
At about 68% destitute level, Nigeria, a world top oil producer, and the nation with the highest paid Senators in the entire world, today has the fourth highest number of poor on the continent. Interactive map here: http://www.indexmundi.com/facts/indicators/SI.POV.DDAY
Our government and their coterie of elite vampires loot not just from our land, but from our pockets. They have made the nation too poor, too poor to react and they are counting on us soon becoming too poor to even think.
Dirty Secrets: Why Jude Is Angry Over Peter and Lola's Marriage
Not only did Jude Okoye stay away from their wedding, even though many people said they saw him in parts of Lagos that same day, he has refused to say anything about their marriage, directly and indirectly. Below are the secrets a top insider revealed to OluFamous.Com about their problems...
It seems Jude knows some things about Lola's past life that his brother do not know since he has been living in the city long before his younger brothers, Peter and Paul, relocated to Lagos and started making money.
The source told OluFamous.Com that the story is not very good and Jude has tried to tell Peter Okoye, as a kid brother, some of the "stuffs" but his brother shocked him by telling him that it doesn't matter since he is in love with Lola and that he believes that everybody has their different past.
Jude Okoye did all he could to stop his brother from marrying Lola after having two children together but did not succeed as Peter Okoye insisted he must go with his heart... #TrueLove
Jude Okoye did all he could to stop his brother from marrying Lola after having two children together but did not succeed as Peter Okoye insisted he must go with his heart... #TrueLove
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PHOTO: Actress Yvonne Nelson Is Naturally Beautiful
This is a picture of the top Ghanaian actress without any make-up. Such a flawless beauty!
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