Do you ever wonder what kind of a
lover you are? Or what kind of a lover
you’re dating? Read these 20 types of
lovers and you’ll find your answer. By
Natalia Avdeeva
When you start dating someone, you
may understand them as a person.
But it’s not always easy to decipher
what kind of a lover they’d be.
But as time passes by, sometimes a
few weeks, or at other times, a few
months, you’d be able to clearly tell
just what kind of a lover they are.
The signs are easy to see, just as
long as you can clear the haze of love
away and see your lover for who they
truly are.
The kinds of lovers and compatibility
Firstly, not all kinds of lovers are
compatible with each other.
If you’re someone who’s fiercely
independent or someone who likes to
be in control all the time, you may
have a hard time staying in a
relationship with a controlling
partner.
On the other hand, if you’re the kind
of lover who wants to be taken care
of, you may find yourself completely
incompatible in a relationship with
someone who’s selfish.
Before you date someone or try
pointing fingers at them, try to find
out what kind of a lover you are.
It’ll help you understand your own
good side and your own flaws when
you enter into a relationship.
And once you understand yourself
better and realize what kind of a lover
you are, you’d find it easier to tell if
there’s a potential for a new
relationship to work out or not with
ease.
There’s more than one kind of lover in
all of us
There are many sides of love in all of
us. Very rarely would you find just one
kind of a lover in all of us. Almost
always, it’s circumstances and
relationships that bring out the
different kinds of lovers within us.
A few kinds of lovers are never good
for a relationship, while a few other
kinds are perfect for a long term
romance.
While there are many subtle hints of
different types of lovers in us all,
there’s one kind of lover that sticks
out and defines us for the kind of lover
we are. And that’s the way your lover
and the rest of the world would see
you.
The 20 kinds of lovers that exist in
the world
Use these 20 kinds of lovers to find
out just what kind of a lover you are,
and what kind of a lover your partner
is.
Try to define yourself as one of these
20 kinds of lovers, and speak with
your partner and ask them to point
out the kind of lovers they see in you.
And if you don’t like how either of you
see each other, talk about it with
each other. After all, understanding
what kind of a lover your partner sees
in you can help you become a better
lover, and work on your flaws. And
it’ll help your partner become a better
lover too!
#1 The giver. This is the selfless lover
who constantly gives in the
relationship, usually because they
believe they’re not good enough for
the relationship or their partner, or
they believe they don’t provide
enough value to the relationship and
try to compensate for it by giving
more towards the relationship.
#2 The taker. This is the kind of
partner who constantly takes in the
relationship *always wants things
their own way*. This person believes
they bring so much into the
relationship just by their mere
existence that they don’t need to do
anything at all to make their partner
happy. People who think of
themselves as a trophy usually end
up as this kind of a partner.
#3 The pleaser. This kind of a lover
goes out of their way to please their
partner. Call it unconditional love or
pleasing love, but just watching their
lover smile makes this person happy
and fulfilled. They get pleasure out of
pleasing their partner, even if it
means giving up on something they
want or like.
#4 The controller. The controlling
lover appears very caring and loving,
and seems extremely attentive to
your needs. But somewhere along the
way, you may start to feel stifled and
suffocated by their subtle demands or
restrictions.
They use manipulation and emotional
blackmail to make you dependent on
them, and before you know it, you feel
trapped and isolated from the rest of
the world.
#5 The selfish lover. This kind of a
lover always thinks twice before
giving something or doing something
nice for their lover. They always ask
themselves “what’s in it for me?”
before they do anything. And they
*discreetly* want the bigger or better
thing all the time, be it the bigger
slice of pizza that both of you pretend
not to notice, or while making plans
for the next vacation.
#6 out of your way to make them feel secure and happy in
the relationship. They feel threatened
by your friends, or by anyone else
who seems to give you the slightest
hint of attention. They constantly
doubt you or sneakily try to snoop
around in the hope of catching you
red-handed.
#7 The actor. The actor is a tricky
person to read, because they behave
like they really care about you when
you’re around. They constantly try to
show just how concerned they are
about you and your happiness, they
ask you if you want something, but in
reality, they don’t ever do anything to
make you feel better. It’s all talk and
no trousers.
#8 The drama seeker. This kind of a
lover wants to experience something
new all the time, be it a fight or a
romantic getaway. They don’t like
comfort or monotony. They’d rather
pick a petty fight or do something
dramatic than just let the relationship
go along its calm course.
#9 The straying lover. This kind of a
partner gets bored very easily and
they always want more. They may
seem excited for the first few months
of the relationship, but as soon as the
infatuation stage passes by, they get
distant or boring. And they’d seem
more interested in impressing
someone else.
#10 The overlooker. This kind of a
partner sees your flaws, but they
choose to overlook them or put up
with them because they don’t want
to change anything in the
relationship. They’d rather be a
punching bag who deals with their
partner’s affairs or lack of affection by
turning a blind eye to it, rather than
confront or walk away from it.
#11 The helper. The helper constantly
tries to help their partner become
better, either by supporting them or
criticizing them. They find their own
meaning to life or happiness in life by
supporting their lover and helping
them achieve something.
This kind of a partner behaves like a
martyr who sacrifices their desires to
help their partner achieve theirs, but
they always remember the sacrifices.
And at times, they may even use it to
emotionally manipulate their lover.
#12 The compromiser. This kind of a
lover doesn’t mind giving in for the
happiness of the relationship. They
give in easily in any argument or
discussion just to please their
partner, or avoid a fight. They may
seem like they have no desires or
wants, and are happy to accept the
decisions of their partner.
#13 Possessive lover. The possessive
lover may love you a lot, but they
have a very hard time trusting you.
They constantly feel like everyone else
in the world is out to separate the
both of you, and every person of the
opposite sex is trying to hook up with
you. This kind of a partner may love
you, but they have a hard time
trusting you unconditionally.
#14 Jealous lover. Does your partner
ever feel jealous of your success or
your achievements? The jealous lover
may love you a lot, but they always
want what you have, or more. If you
buy a few new expensive perfumes,
your jealous lover would want to buy
perfumes too. And if you get
promoted at work, your partner may
start sulking about how
underappreciated they are at work
even if they never felt that way before
you got your promotion!
#15 Material lover. This kind of a
lover is more focused on wealth and
luxuries than anything else. They
want everything the material world
has to offer, and they don’t care what
their partner does *behind their back*
as long as they have money and the
good life.
#16 The loyal lover. A loyal lover is
the one who sticks with their partner
through thick and thin. They have
moral principles and they don’t go
looking for opportunities to cheat on
their partner. They’re emotionally and
sexually satisfied and don’t stray at
the first stolen opportunity.
#17 Passionate lover. This type of
lover is almost always on a sexual
high. They’re extremely passionate
and are proud of their sexual
prowess. They spend a lot of time
making love, and they love having a
good time in bed and pleasing their
partner. They’re full of passion and
they can’t imagine a life where
sexual intimacy takes second place
behind anything else.
#18 Brooding lover. The brooding
lover is the kind of lover who’s lost in
their own world almost all the time.
They want space and love being by
themselves for several hours, and at
times, they may even get annoyed if
they don’t get enough space to be by
themselves. They’re distracted or lost
in thoughts, and even if they seem
happy in the relationship, they almost
always seem bothered by something.
#19 Enthusiastic lover. They’re
always enthusiastic and love trying
new things all the time. They’re not
boring, and at times, they’re even
reckless. They love creating
memories and are always involving
their partner to try a new experience
all the time.
#20 The romantic lover. This kind of
a lover is a true romantic. They woo
you and impress you with romantic
gestures all the time. They’re really
sweet and loving, and don’t miss any
opportunity to display a grand
gesture of love and romance! :
So which of these 20 kinds of lovers
do you see in yourself and your
partner? Talk about it to each other,
even if it seems painful or awkward.
If both of you care about each other,
having this conversation will only
bring both of you closer!
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